I have been struggling not to hurt myself — for peace of my own mind, I have to forgive him, for I am hurt by his hurt, hurt that I am causing so I must take this path to preserve friendship we’ve had for thirty years, until we tried intimacy that (apparently) meant more to me than to him… And that made me question the 30 years that were very good, and I shared my questioning with him! –now I want to be a Warrior for Forgiveness, a Warrior for Compassion so that we’ll be able –so that I’ll be able to move to a much better place where I can live with myself, and ignore those telling me that he should never be forgiven, but that’s not the kind of heart I have, believing that in the end, it is forms of love that will prevail; yes, the Power of Love!
–the only way!
–I feel hurt, but so does he… and I’m no longer going to try to measure my hurt against his hurt. We are both hurting and without friends that we’ve been for so many years… I am 61, and he is 67 –I just don’t know how much time is left, but, as I said, I truly believe that love is stronger, more durable than revenge which in the end would only cause more hurt for both of us, so I’m moving toward forgiveness; I have to, for I can’t live with myself otherwise.
I think many of us already know of the power of forgiveness however how many of us really practice it in our daily lives? Many times we choose to hang on to the hurt, the anger, the guilt and the pain rather than let it go and forgive the person who has wronged us. I know that it can be easier said than done however when we choose to forgive, we are doing it for ourselves.
If for example somebody wrongs us in some way and we choose to hold anger and hatred towards that person, we are really the ones who are suffering and hurting in the situation. This anger and resentment that we feel has been known to turn into disease in certain people’s lives. I know in my experience that when I had anger towards a person, I thought in my own head that I was hurting that person by…
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